The Pain IS The Love?
I came across this communication from last October and was guided to share it. I’ve experienced a lot of loss in the last few years, and since this communication, two of my dear animal friends have passed on. It’s been hard emotionally in 3-D, but these communications on grief and emotion and the ultimate connection we all continue to share have helped so much as I process my own feelings around the death of these dear friends. I hope it helps you today, too.
This is Marcy, a beloved friend whose passing taught me so much about how connected we always remain. She continues to be a part of my team (bless her!) even though her physical form died 3 1/2 years ago.
Be sure to scroll all the way to the bottom where the Light has provided a really lovely visualization you can use to heal and transmute whatever you’re processing emotionally today.
- I ask Ahramein, The Fairy, the Light and Uncle Don to help me understand emotions and pain and the correlation between pain and love. What I just heard while meditating was, “the pain IS the love.” Please help me understand.
* Ahramein: The pain comes through the love and through the misunderstand that living in form provides. These misunderstandings are “provided” because they are gateways to understanding. You step out of misunderstanding and into understanding.
One of the greatest misunderstandings of existing in form is the belief that separation is real. Open now, don’t close.
Separation does not actually exist, but in 3-D, it does. In 3-D, things — people, plants, animals — die and they no longer exist in the form they once did. You marvel at how we tree devas seem so unconcerned for our tree forms — but it is because we understand what you do not. That is only one, limited aspect of our existence. It is not everything. It is not nothing either. We love our trees just as you love your body and the opportunity it gives you to experience this existence and incarnation. But it is not all of you, and you will not cease to exist when your body does. Nor will I cease to exist when the tree does. Nor will Ashkar (another tree deva whose tree was recently struck by lightning) cease to exist if his tree dies. We are all still here, existing.
The pain of separation isn’t for the existence of those you love, it’s for the spaces shared in 3-D, which is both loss and opportunity.
Look at Don and Roe (the grandparents of my heart who both transitioned last year). With them no longer in 3-D, your life holds different opportunities. When Marcy (my German Shepherd friend pictured above) died, it opened up the opportunity for you and Little Dog to travel together, which has been healing for both of you, and many others. It doesn’t at all mean that you didn’t greatly enjoy sharing that space in 3-D, nor does it mean that understanding these opportunities erases the joy of those times in 3-D or the feelings of loss at those times being over.
It’s just a shift to a different opportunity. These human lives you lead are full of these shifts. Different circumstances with different opportunities to learn different things.
You feel with your animal friends that you should be able to prevent them from suffering and dying. Because, on one level, you were unable to prevent your children in past lives from suffering and dying. You are grieving your perceived powerlessness as well as the grief of understanding the inevitability of physical death.
This is not an automatic conversion. No switch will flip and have you suddenly feeling differently about this and suddenly being able to cheerfully wave goodbye as they depart. It’s not like that either. It’s a complicated part of your humanity, but in seeking to understand it on a deeper level, you are gaining traction on your own healing.
Human emotion is messy — by design. It is that entry or gateway into deeper understanding, but you have to clear the brush away to make a path to the gateway. And in that process, healing takes place.
So the pain and the messiness — it is beautiful. It is love. It comes through love of others AND love of self. You can look back at all the different gateways of grief you’ve experienced and see what you gained. What healing was brought about.
- Can any of this make the physiological pain that accompanies the process less? The pain of the anxiety is brutal.
* A: Yes and no. Your form works the way it does for a reason. Energy moves through your field and through your form the way it does for a reason. You are transmuting a lot as you experience it. You’re laundering the energy.
And emotion = energy in motion, as your teacher says. So emotion moves through your field as emotion and you clean it and sort it and fold it up in a tidy parcel. This sounds off somehow to you, but there is a recalibration and realignment of the energy in how you work that is somewhat akin to folding clothes into neat, manageable parcels.
In understanding this about how you work, you’ll be of greater assistance to others. And your own experiences, while a part of your own spiritual development, are mainly for the benefit of others in this lifetime. Because this is a lifetime where you are meant to share from your experience to help bring about the healing of many. Your own healing is almost secondary to your soul’s purpose in this life. You’ve been through what you’ve been through and experienced what you’ve experienced in order to help others. And to bring about your own perfect healing.
Keep that in mind — and in your heart as you go through all these different feelings.
AN EXERCISE FROM THE LIGHT:
Close your eyes, take a deep breath and find your emotions in your body. For me, they are often centered around my heart or solar plexus. Visualize them. What color are they? What do they look like? Do they flow, or are they all clenched up? As you watch, just allow them to move in whatever harmonious and balanced ways they move. Notice, do the colors change? What are the colors? Do you get any other images associated with the emotions? Sometimes I see turtles or teapots, so it can be anything. Take a couple of minutes, it doesn’t have to be long, to just watch the part of your body where you hold these feelings. When and if you feel comfortable, visualize the colors slowly shifting to a bright white prismatic rainbow light that is mixed with a golden light. Visualize that expanding out from that part of your body, expanding to encompass your entire body, expanding out from your body until it surrounds you 10 feet on all sides (to the left, to the right, in front, behind, above and below.) Visualize the bubble of light transforming into tiny particles of prismatic rainbow light and moving out and away from you into the cosmos. Let go with gratitude for the transmutation and healing that has taken place. Repeat this exercise as necessary.