The Journal of a Spiritual Seeker, Understanding Grief as a Process
Hello Seekers,
This has been our year of collective grief. Everyone has had to let go of something or someone, whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. Some of us have experienced deaths of our loved ones, some the death of what we believed to be true about our physical world. Others have had to let go of dreams that couldn’t come true this year, and so many others have experienced isolation in ways they never had before.
I’ve spent the last few years in an ongoing state of grief, and I’ve returned to this message time and again since channeling it three years ago. At the time, my mom and I were taking care of my great-uncle and great-aunt, who were the grandparents of my heart. They were in pretty rough shape, and we knew we were helping them with the end of their lives. At the same time, my dear animal friends were getting really old, too, and I knew there was an inevitability with these five beings — that none of them would be able to stay with me forever. And I was intensely grateful for every moment of the time we had together.
Uncle Don was the first to go. He died on New Year’s Eve in 2018, nearly a year after the Light provided me this guidance. I almost immediately felt and heard him with me, and knew the promises the Light made here were true, and that we were still connected through the love we shared. Aunt Roe followed eight months later. And then, from the end of December last year to the end of July this year, all three of my dear old animal friends died. All five within 19 months. And in some way or another, all five have made it clear since that they are still with me in their own ways.
I forget sometimes that there is a process to my grief. I expect it all to be tidy and wrapped up. They’ve gone from the physical, I’ve learned all these things thanks to them, I still feel them in my heart, I’m grateful for the time we had, and now I feel sometimes I should be on to what is next. Except … sometimes the sadness creeps in and I realize there are layers upon layers of emotion involved in the grief, and that the process goes on and on, maybe even forever.
The Light — and those who have left the physical — often remind me that grief is an energy that moves through us and through our lives. We should not live in the sadness, it’s just an emotion that reminds us of what we are experiencing. The energy of grief encompasses the sadness, but also includes the happiness, too, as well as all the other feelings we feel about having experienced these loves in our lives. It holds space in gratitude for having experienced these loves, and brings forth the joy that lifts our hearts when we think of them. It holds space for the entire range of our experience.
Everyone has experienced their own grief this year, and there aren’t enough ways to say that it has been a transformative experience for everyone. If we can hold this message as a promise of what is possible when we experience our collective oneness, perhaps it can open some channels and pathways for the energy of grief to move through our lives and open up the full range of what the energy can show us, beyond just the sadness.
Sending love,
Jodie
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Message from the Light, Jan. 18, 2018
Grief is a process by which you learn about your own humanity and mortality. That this place you live right now is finite is a part of the paradigm, but only a small part, for the energy is not finite and does, in fact, live forever.
Love lives forever. The creation of energy that exists when love happens — when someone loves and is in turn loved back — is infinite and immortal. Those we love are carried with us in our souls forever through this love, which doesn’t cease to exist simply because someone’s physical form dies.
This love calls out to and connects us beyond this time and this place and this limited understanding of what it means to exist.
Grief is the process of understanding that endings are not all that is, and in fact, are not endings at all. They are continuations on, to the next step. And for those who are “left behind,” the end of someone’s life is simply a beginning of understanding their existence in a different context.
You don’t believe in death of the soul when the physical form is done, so don’t grieve as if you do.
The pain you experience is real and understandable in the context of the duality that this place you live exists. Something is either alive or dead, here or not. But you are aware on a greater level of energy and how it works and how it evolves. The soul evolves through the experiences of life AND death, and so it is a beautiful thing when a soul chooses it is time to learn the lessons of departure and move beyond the physical.
You will meet again, and you will gain a greater and greater understanding of oneness that allows you to feel the presence of those you love, even after they are gone, for they are never truly gone. We live together in oneness, and in so doing, are always connected in light and love.
Remind yourself of this, live this, and BE this for those you love who are going through this monumental transition to what is next.
This is a great and beautiful calling for you and one that will be filled with deep joys as well as deep sorrows. Take comfort knowing what has been said is truth and that in this process, you will learn amazing things and experience profound love, beyond what you’ve experienced in this physical form as yet.
Sadness is a part of the transmutation process. It is emotion — energy in motion. Here is an opportunity for you to understand that concept. This energy of sadness MOVES through you. It transmutes the grief you’re experiencing, the pain of impending loss, and allows you to move forward in light. So allow the sadness to happen, and allow it to move. Don’t hold onto it or wallow in it or transversely try to tamp it down. Simply allow it to move, and in moving, clear and balance your field. This will allow you the balance you need to be present for those you love at all times.
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Exercise: Begin each exercise by grounding and protecting. For more information on how, see this post.
Once you’re grounded, ask inside: What am I grieving right now? After identifying what it is, allow the first feeling you feel around this to come up. As much as you can, allow that feeling to expand and move, don’t get stuck in it. See what comes up next, and then next after that. When you sit with the energy of grief, how does it move? If you feel called, allow yourself to write what you’re feeling through the process. If you find that this helps, repeat this exercise any time you feel overwhelmed by the feelings that come up through your grief process.
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A brief note: This journal and its exercises are simply a means to help you find your own flow. There is no pressure to follow them exactly or read each and every one. It does not need to be read in order either, so if you miss one, don’t feel like you’ve failed or fallen behind. These messages are here to hold space for you as you discover and evolve within your spiritual practice.
This is the first volume of The Journal of the Spiritual Seeker, and I’m presenting it here on The Devic Connection website, serialized over the last 10 weeks of 2020, with weekly roundups via email (you can sign up in the box at the bottom of this page if you’d like to receive these.) If you’ve just arrived here and would like to start from the beginning, here’s the link to the first post.
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We all need help with clarity …
Sometimes, things come up in the healing journey that we can’t quite manage by ourselves. I’m fortunate to have people I can call on to help me gain that clarity. And I’m also in therapy, which helps immensely with processing the psychological and mental health issues. If you find yourself getting stuck on this journey or having something come up that you need some guidance on, please do seek help. An internet search can help you find a qualified mental health practitioner for those psychological issues. And if you’re looking for help from the Light on the spiritual questions, I have some availability for readings. (Read more about that here.)